Ted Bundy #letsLEARNfriday

My true-crime-lovin’ self felt my heart pitter patter when I say the name, Ted Bundy, come in on Instagram as an entry for what I should do for #letsLEARNfriday sometime. Ted Bundy terrifies and fascinates me all at the same time, and I am so excited to do a little bit of a deep dive on him. Granted, this will certainly be a glossed-over tale about him, but regardless, I’m looking forward to this research. I’ve listened to several podcasts about him over the years and have watched a documentary or two, but I know I still have much to learn. Lets see how I do. I hope you learned something new along the way!

Also, I feel like this goes without saying, but I feel this post should have a trigger warning. We will talk about a serial rapist and murderer. BUT I will not go into any details of the rapes or murders. Can’t do that here, sorry. So if thats not your cup of tea, I GET IT. Come back next week – I promise I won’t pick something murdery.

Ted Bundy

Theodore Robert Bundy was born on November 24, 1946 in Burlington, Vermont. He was an illegitimate child to his mother, Eleanor Louise Cowell. In 1951, Eleanor married Johnnie Bundy. Its reported that Ted didn’t ever have much of a relationship with him, but did take his last name. Ted’s mother was ashamed of him (because she wasn’t married when she had him) and he ended up being raised as the adopted son of his grandparents, and for a time, was told and believed his mother was his sister. Ted was always a little macabre. Its reported that when he was three, he had a fascination of knives start to develop. Then, when he was a teen, he peered in peoples windows (ew) and frequently stole things. Later, Ted Bundy graduated from University of Washington with his degree in psychology and was then accepted to go to law school in Utah.

So here is something insane. Ted Bundy admitted to killing 36 women, but experts now think his total was closer to 100, possibly even more. Uhhhhh. That is freaky! Ultimately, his grand total will never be known, but the speculation is crazy.

Its not completely known when Bundy began his killing spree, but it sounds like the overall estimate is that he began in 1974. Women in the Seattle area and the nearby Oregon area began going missing and it was reported that they were last seen with a handsome man named, Ted.

Bundy’s first known attack was in January 1974 when he assaulted and beat Karen Sparks at the University of Washington in her apartment. She survived, thankfully, but suffered terrible brain damage and doesn’t remember anything from this attack. I mean, obviously her whole situation is so sad, but maybe in a way its a tiny silver lining to not remember what happened? I don’t know, I can’t decide how I feel about that. Any way you spin it, its just sad. On February 1, 1974, he committed his first documented murder. Between January and July, Bundy was believed to have killed at least eight women in Seattle. These victims were Lynda Healy, Donna Gail Manson, Susan Elaine Rancourt, Brenda Carol Ball, Georgeann Hawkins, Denise Naslund and Roberta Kathleen Parks (from Oregon). (at this time, it was noted that most of his victims had long, dark hair that was parted down the middle).

In the Fall of 1974, Bundy moved to Salt Lake City, Utah to attend Law School. Between October and November (thats just two months!!) he murdered Nancy Wilcox, Melissa Smith, Laura Aime and Debi Kent.

He had a routine to his awful acts. He often times took women’s kindness and allowed it to backfire on them. Many times he would pretend to be injured and would ask these women for help getting to his car, etc, and these wonderful ladies were kind and just wanted to help this handsome, hurt man and he took advantage of them. Its awful. He also had a pattern to his murders in that he would typically rape them first, then beat them to death. Ugh.

On November 8, 1974, Ted Bundy attempted to kidnap a woman named Carol DaRonch. DaRonch was out shopping when a man approached her, claiming to be a police officer who said someone attempted to steal her car and he wanted to take her outside to file a police report. He told her he’d take her to the police station where they were ‘holding the suspect.’ But on their way, he pulled over and handcuffed her. He attempted to beat her, but miraculously she escaped and immediately reported it to police. The real police. This act ultimately led to his first arrest in August of 1975.

In the next few months, he murdered Caryn Eileen Campbell, Julie Ann Cunningham, Denise Lynn Oliverson, Lynette Dawn Culver and Susan Curtis.

Around this time, Bundy’s longtime girlfriend, Elizabeth Kloepfer, called police and told them to look into her boyfriend because she was growing suspicious of him (can you imagine?). In August of 1975, Bundy was pulled over while driving in Salt Lake and was found with a crowbar, ice pick, face mask, rope, handcuffs and more. He was then arrested – but I guess not because of all the creepy stuff he had in his car, but because he fit the description of Carol DaRonch’s kidnapper. (more incriminating evidence was found in his apartment after they obtained a search warrant for it during this time). On March 1, 1976, he was convicted of indeed, kidnapping DaRonch and was sentenced to 1-15 years in jail.

July 7, 1977 was the first time that Ted Bundy escaped from prison by jumping out of the windows during a hearting and was missing for 6-8 days (different sources give different numbers). Once found, he went straight to trial. Then on December 30, 1977, he escaped a second time. The stories are kind of all over the place on the internet about this, but somehow, there was a hole in the ceiling – maybe one from a light fixture? maybe one he made himself? and Bundy, having lost 30 pounds was able to shimmy through it and crawl through the ceiling and essentially walk right out of jail. Its reported that his disappearance wasn’t even noticed for at least 15 hours, which gave him plenty of time to high-tail it out of there.

Where did he end up next? Tallahassee, Florida. And on January 15, 1978, he attacked four women from the Chi Omega sorority house, killing two of them, Margaret Bowman and Lisa Levy. That same night, he reportedly attacked another woman in her home.

On February 9, 1978, Bundy attacked and murdered 12-year old Kimberly Leach near her school. Kimberly broke his pattern of his usual victims because she was his only known underage victim. This one really makes me sad. Twelve years old… Thankfully, a week after her senseless murder, he was pulled over for driving with a stolen license.

In June of 1979 his trial began for the murders of Margaret Bowman and Lisa Levy (the sorority girls). He acted as his own attorney (ok?) but apparently sucked at that because he was found GUILTY and sentenced to death by the electric chair. In January of 1980, he then stood trial for the murder of little Kimberly Leach where he was once again found GUILTY and sentenced to death — thats 3 death sentences now.

In Florida State Prison on January 24, 1989, Ted Bundy was executed via electric chair. His last words were reportedly, “I’d like you to give my love to family and friends.”

Other Facts:

-While on trial for Kimberly Leach’s murder in 1980, Ted Bundy married Carole Boone. In 1981 she gave birth to their daughter. They divorced in 1986.

-The electric chair he was executed in was nicknamed, “Old Sparky.”

-Supposedly his victims resembled an ex-girlfriend of his

-He would revisit the corpses and had many photographs of his victims bodies

-There are many documentaries about Bundy

Well. There you have it. A quick look at Ted Bundy, convicted serial rapist and murderer. I am aware I could have got more into his crimes, his victims, and details like those, but in an attempt to keep this post as G-Rated as possible, I opted to go the cleaner route.

So what do you think? How’d I do? What should we learn about next?

sources

biography.com

insider.com

historycollection.com

Sleep Training Baby Sis

K guys. If you pay any attention to me, you probably know that I don’t sleep at night very well. Why? Well, besides crippling anxiety, it’s because little Flora struggles so hard at night time. It was more common than not to get like maaaaybe two hours of sleep – and not consecutively. I rode the struggle bus – heck, I think I drove the struggle bus – daily, and I knew I needed to figure this out. When I don’t sleep, the first thing really affected is my mental health and…obviously I don’t want that. It also made Flora struggle to be the happy girl she naturally is and it was negatively affecting her naps during the day! It’s safe to say, things needed to change.

So I started simple and hey, somehow it’s working finally! I’ve tried this many times, but now it’s clicking for us both and I’m not lying when I say I have cried about this.

I love sleep.

How We’ve Done It

•At dinner time, I make sure she has a nice, full belly

•She takes a nice, warm bath and thoroughly enjoys every second of it (it’s adorable how much she loves baths)

•We lotion her up and put her in cozy jammies and her sleep sack

•We go in her brothers room to read a book, do scriptures and prayer, then we kiss her brother goodnight

•I nurse her for a few minutes then put her in her crib. Sometimes she is asleep, sometimes she is drowsy. I’m not a stickler on that.

•I turn the video monitor on and leave the room and close the doors

Typically she’ll cry for several minutes, but is then able to soothe herself back to sleep (YAY!) And each night she falls asleep quicker. I’m so proud of her. Seriously.

During the night she will occasionally whimper, but is able to fall back asleep on her own. If she is really sad, I go comfort her for a minute by patting her back and speaking softly to her. She also typically wakes up around 2:30/3 and we nurse – in all honesty, this ones for me. My boobs can’t handle going all night without nursing yet.

It’s amazing. It’s so refreshing and it feels strange and so satisfying to be able to sleep so well at night again. It’s been a long time, after all.

Sometimes it’s Hard, Guys

I’m trying to figure out how to say this without sounding insensitive. It’s been on my mind for the past week and I just want to share my thoughts on the topic.

The last few days I have seen several posts about how parents shouldn’t complain about their children. Mainly, the reasons seem to be because it scares future/hopeful mothers.

Here’s the thing. I totally get that! I remember when we were trying for Harrison, it never sat right with me when people would complain about their kids. I mean – you have a kid! That’s something people dream about and pray so hard for. So complaining about these little miracles just seemed downright awful. I still fully understand why people would say this, too. If you know me, you know I 100% believe people should have their own opinions and have every right to believe what they want to. Everyone has their own thoughts and that is GREAT! and I mean that!

However, now I’m a mother. I’ve had this title for a little over 5 hours now. It’s a beautiful thing. It’s my grandest blessing and greatest honor. I love my three children with my whole heart and life with them is even better than the best adventure I could have ever imagined. But motherhood can also feel really isolating and lonely sometimes. Sometimes you feel that way because of what your kids are doing. And..hey, I know it’s not great, but sometimes complaining a little bit feels good. I know that personally, when I whine a little and other moms can relate and share their advice or even their solidarity, it helps me feel less isolated. It helps me feel like I’m not doing motherhood all wrong. It helps ease the mom guilt. I promise I’m not doing it to scare anyone about motherhood. I’m not doing it to make anyone feel like I’m ungrateful for my children. Nothing could be farther from the truth. It just helps me feel less crazy. It reminds me it’s ok if every second isn’t a piece of cake. It reminds me that motherhood isn’t always a walk in the park, and THATS OK. I’m just grateful that there are other moms out there who validate these feelings. I hope I can validate them in other moms, as well. Motherhood is a journey and we are in this together!

As for you wonderful and valiant hopeful mamas and mamas-to-be, I truly hope that when I periodically complain about my kids sleep habits, picky eating or tricky behavior, you don’t see it as me trying to scare anyone or be inconsiderate to people. I’m doing it because just like you are on your journey, I am on mine and this is how I handle it. Guys. I promise you that I’m not trying to scare you. Motherhood is lovely and I’d never try to convince anyone otherwise.

Ok now I feel like I’m rambling. Do you get what I’m saying? I just basically want to say – I get both sides!! But I don’t feel like people should feel like they should be silent about things that help them mentally (like talking about all aspects of motherhood) out of fear of offending. Does this make sense?

Please just know I’m not trying to ruffle any feathers. I adore all of you. Everyone. I will validate all your feelings. Whatever side of this matter you’re on, I absolutely get it.

Alright I need to stop now because I feel like I’m talking myself in a hole. Haha! All of you keep being incredible. I love you all dearly.

Great White Sharks #letsLEARNfriday

I’m kind of cracking up that the first thing we are going to do a deep dive on is great white sharks, but guys, four people requested it! I had no idea that great whites were such an interesting topic! But I get it. They are fascinating. So lets do this, shall we? Lets learn about these big ol’ sharks!

GREAT WHITE SHARKS

picture from national geographic.com

Description and Features

Great White Sharks, or their scientific name, Carcharodon Carcharis (doesn’t that sound like a dinosaur name?), are large, ahem, huge carnivorous fish. They are the apex predator of the ocean. They tend to grow to be about 15 to 20+ feet long and can weigh anywhere around two and a half tons. They’re shaped similarly to a torpedo and have a gray upper body that can easily help them blend in with the bottom of the ocean floor, and a white under belly, which is where they get their name from. They have incredibly powerful tails that can launch them through the water at speeds around 15mph. Torpedo, indeed. Great White Sharks can have up to 300 sharp, triangular-shaped teeth in several rows inside of their powerful jaws. They also have impeccable senses of smell, which no doubt helps them when finding their next meal. Sharks are so wired for hunting that they even have a ‘sixth sense,’ if you will. They are able to sense electrical currents in the water that come off of other living things. With an advantage like that, no wonder they’re the apex. Oh, and you know those little fish that you see swimming right beside sharks? I learned that those little guys are called, Pilot Fish and they eat parasites off of larger fish, as well as catching scraps that they don’t eat. They also feel protected beside these large predators, because the fish that would typically feast on them won’t come near a shark.

Diet

Great Whites are the largest predatory fish in the ocean, and there is very little that they won’t feed on. They have been known to feed on other sharks, crustaceans, sea birds, mollusks and various fish. Larger Great White Sharks have also been known to prey on sea lions, seals, small whales, dolphins and deceased larger whales.

Population

These sharks are commonly found in cool, coastal waters. It sounds like there isn’t really an estimate on the exact population of these giant creatures, however scientists say that their numbers and tragically dropping. The International Union for the Conservation of Nature say they are classified as, ‘vulnerable,’ which is just one short step away from endangered. Two of the biggest dangers to a sharks life are overfishing and sharks getting caught in fish nets. This makes me so sad! Even if these are big, scary predators, it breaks my heart to learn of a species slowly getting smaller and small in numbers.

Not-So-Family-Oriented

A mother shark will typically have two baby sharks at a time called, Pups. Pups commonly weigh around 50 to 60 pounds at birth. Mama shark has zero maternal instinct though. The second those babies pop into the ocean, they are on their own. In some cases, the mother shark will even try to eat her own pups. Immediately after birth, these baby sharks will swim off into the ocean, completely taking care of themselves.

Shark Attacks

Lastly, and something I think everyone thinks about when sharks are discussed is the subject of shark attacks. National Geographic says, “Of the 100-plus annual shark attacks worldwide, a third to a half are attributed to great white sharks.” Thankfully, however, the majority of these attacks are not fatal. Great Whites are known to “sample-bite” before really attacking, and typically when they ‘sample’ a human, they let them go. I mean, being sampled by a shark still sounds like something thats definitely on my top 5 list of fears, but I guess its a little more reassuring to know that humans aren’t something sharks are craving, you know? When there are fatal attacks, they’re usually because of what you could call, mistaken identity. A swimmer in the ocean can easily look like a tasty seal to a shark. Its also important to remember that when you enter the ocean, you are entering the sharks home. They have even more of a right to be there than you do. It is important to be aware and informed when you enter any area of ocean.

But what can you do if you if a shark approaches you in the water? Some steps you can take to help your chances out are to maintain eye-contact, don’t panic and make sudden or splashy movements, do not play dead, remember you can punch the nose – but remember its mouth is right under that – maybe jab their gills instead, slowly back away. But like…lets just really hope none of us find ourselves in this predicament. CAN YOU IMAGINE?! *shudders*

Great White Shark Fun Facts:

-A Great White can smell a single drop of blood in 25 gallons of water – they could also detect a colony of seals around 2 miles away

-The sharks scientific name essentially means, “ragged-toothed”

-Great White Sharks (and all true sharks) have no real bones

-They usually attack their prey coming at them from below

-Some sharks become very docile and even in a trance-like state when flipped upside down (something researches use to their advantage)

HAVE SOMETHING YOU WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT? LET ME KNOW WHAT IT IS! WE’LL LEARN ABOUT IT TOGETHER!

sources

nationalgeographic.com

Shark Research of Miami

seahistory.com

natgeokids.com

cnn.com/travel

animals.howstuffworks.com

#letsLEARNfriday

I just recently turned 30 and its a new year. It seems like a perfect time to start a new endeavor, doesn’t it? I’ve been wanting to do something like this for a while now, and I don’t think there’s a better time to begin than right this second!

I am starting something I’m calling Lets Learn Friday. Basically, I have wanted to just…know more. I’ve always wished I was more knowledgeable on more things all over the boarder. So this is where you guys come in!

Tell me what you want to learn more about! Tell me, and then I’m going to write down everyones suggestions and I’m going to pick 1-2 a week and do a blog post about the subject so we can learn together!! I’ll also post on my instagram stories and maybe do an instagram post about it, too. I’m even considering doing videos for my YouTube channel, too, if that’ll help me spill to you what I’ve learned about whatever subject I’ll cover that week.

I’m super excited for this. I’m excited to grow my knowledge and hopefully entertain you along the way. Join in with me!! Let me know what YOU wish you knew more about, and let me teach you what I discover!

My 2021 Word

I’ve been mulling over what word I’d pick for 2021 for the last few months. For a long time I thought I’d pick Unity, and I was settled with it, but for the last few weeks I’ve been really pulled to another word that has just felt so right and perfect for this upcoming year for me.

My word for 2021 is

-Being more secure in myself, my decisions, my gut, my abilities, my contributions, my intuition, my ideas and my goals

-Making my home a place of security for me and my family

-Being secure in my own individual journey

-Helping others feel secure in their own skin

I’m so excited for this new year and all the NEW it will bring!

What is YOUR word for 2021?!

My Letter to 2020

Dear 2020,

I think we can all agree that you were a ride. A journey. An experience from out in left field that no one saw coming. You were full of so many new things. New things I never thought would happen in my lifetime. There is so much I could say about this wild year.

But I’m just going to say this. I am thankful for it. 2020 did things for me and my life that I never would have done if it weren’t for such a wild year. I was forced to grow, to get uncomfy, to stretch, to rely on my gut, my intuition and my testimony. I was changed and learned how to be more secure in myself and confident in myself and my choices. I became a mom for the third time to sweet Flora (hands down the BEST part of the year, I became a preschool teacher to my boys, I was pregnant during a global pandemic, I learned more about the gospel while doing home church, I felt the bond within my family grow and I was reminded of what really matters in life. 2020 was the year of changing my perspective, and I have a lot of gratitude for it.

Sincerely,

A Brand New Me

I’ve Got Your Back

The other night, I posted this on my Instagram stories:

“It was a weird day mentally. And now I’m in bed and I can just feel my anxiety getting thicker and yuckier. I’m stressed because I seem to get these anxiety attack flare-ups when I don’t sleep well, and Flora doesn’t sleep great lately. So I feel like I’m just sitting here waiting for it to get worse. Ugh. Its a crappy, heavy feeling.”

“I’m sharing this as a reminder that its normal to not feel 100% all the time. Its also normal for things to switch quickly. It happens to SO many people, its just not vocalized all the time. I was feeling so good a lot of the day, but in the last few hours its progressively switched. Its ok. Its normal. Im going to focus on dealing with this. Feeling it. Acknowledging it. Then doing the things that usually help me feel better.”

After posting those stories, I went to bed. The next morning I woke up to 171 DM’s. I was flooded with messages from people offering words of encouragement and advice. They shared with me their own stories and hardships with mental health.

I have always known that mental health and postpartum hardships aren’t a rarity. But having that many people reach out to me was something powerful. In all of those messages, I felt validated and United with a group of people who didn’t choose their hard, but are still powering through. Some days it’s easier than others, but we’re doing it! I’m proud of that. I’m proud of us.

If you’re one of these fellow warriors, I just wanted to tell you I love you. I hear you. I support you. I’ll advocate for you. I’ve got your back. If you feel alone, or on edge, or at a breaking point or any other strong, hard emotions, and you have no one to talk to – talk to me!! I will listen. I won’t cast judgement or question why you feel the way you do. Because I get it. I understand it. Let’s help each other. Let’s keep speaking up. Let’s keep having each other’s backs.

THIRTY Trips Around the Sun

Today is my 30th Birthday, and I’m not going to lie to you, thats WEIRD. 30 seems like a really big number to me right about now. But hey, I hear all the time that your 30’s tend to be some of your best years. So I’m banking on that!

Now, keeping up with the tradition I’ve made on my blog for my birthday – here are 30 things about yours truly.

1. I strongly prefer winter over summer. I love the cold weather and the cozy, peaceful atmosphere it brings.

2. I’d rather watch tv shows instead of movies, though I love both.

3. I feel like I have a very creative brain, but I’m still figuring out how to channel it and put it to good use.

4. I hate doing laundry. So much. Hands down the worst chore. But the smell of laundry is absolutely one of the best things to happen to this world.

5. I avoid confrontation at all costs. It terrifies me.

6. Along with so many other people, I’m super into True Crime podcasts. It doesn’t help my anxiety one bit, but I’m so hooked.

7. I love to decorate. I plan to start learning more about it this year and incorporating that new knowledge into my new home.

8. Along those same lines, if I could go back and change my career, I’d be an Interior Designer. But I’d also love to be a Labor and Delivery Nurse.

9. I play with my belly button. I have since before I can remember. It’s comforting to me.

10. I don’t like being sore. I know working out is important and good, but the soreness that follows is a big downer to me.

11. I like pie so much more than cake.

12. Scrapbooking is something I’ve enjoyed doing for years. At the beginning of COVID/quarantine, I stared a COVID-19 scrapbook series and it’s one of the projects I’m most proud of.

13. My perfect day (aside from spending it at Disney with my family), would be spent staying home with my family in comfy clothes playing games all day long with really good treats.

14. Light orange is my favorite color followed closely by gray.

15. My favorite Disney attractions are: Disneyland: Haunted Mansion, California Adventure: Guardians of the Galaxy, Magic Kingdom: Seven Dwarfs Mine Train, Epcot: Living with the Land, Animal Kingdom: Kilimanjaro Safari, Hollywood Studios: Rock’n Roller Coaster.

16: I only drive because I have to. I don’t like driving.

17. I’m very attached to my hair. Trims still make me nervous. It’s a part of me. When I hear people say, “it’s just hair,” I honestly cannot relate to that mentality at all.

18. When I was in labor with Flora at the hospital I got so hot. I’ve never felt that hot and uncomfortable and panicky because of my temperature before. It was miserable, and for some reason every. single. night. since I’ve had her, I think about that sensation.

19. I only wear/own Disney earrings.

20. I have a running dialogue in my mind at all times. Like very rarely does this not happen.

21. My biggest pet peeve is when people tell you your opinion is wrong. No it’s not! People are entitled to their own thoughts and opinions. Of course you can discuss and debate them, but don’t say they’re flat out wrong.

22. My current most embarrassing moment happened a couple years ago when I was watering the flowers in our garden. I went to adjust the hose and had it on full blast and accidentally sprayed a teenage boy straight in the face as he walked by my house. I felt so bad and was sooo embarrassed!

23. I honestly don’t know the last time I slept through the night.

24. I love being a mom so much. I grew up fantasizing about what it would be like, and it’s even better than my wildest dreams. There are hard days and moments, but it’s still something that fills me with joy and pride. I’m certainly not a perfect mom, but I have patient and understanding little ones who are soft either me and I love them more than they’ll ever understand.

25. I love having my hair played with or brushed. Nothing feels better.

26. Late night chats with Craig in bed are one of my favorite things. Is therapeutic and calming. I look forward to those moments.

27. I have a birth mark on the left side of my neck and it just looks like my neck is dirty. I used to be self conscious about it, but I’ve since embraced it.

28. You know that saying that goes something like, “I’m not an early bird or a night owl, I seem to be some kind of permanently exhausted pigeon?” …pretty sure that was written for me.

29. My favorite quote, and my motto is by none other than Walt Disney. He says, “Around here, however, we don’t look backwards for very long. We keep moving forward, opening up new doors and doing new things, because we’re curious … and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.”

30. I try so hard to be a genuinely happy, faithful and positive person. I strive to be a light and someone people know they can turn to and know they won’t be judged or treated poorly. I hope I’ve made you all feel that way too.

Thanks for being here! Thanks for celebrating with me today by reading this post! I adore you all.

Hashtag BLESSED

Yesterday our sweet Flora baby was blessed, and holy wow it was a special day. Craig gave her a blessing as beautiful and as special as she is (and she’s very beautiful and special). I think some of the phrases that were spoken in her blessing will be ones I keep with me forever, as I watch my little girl grow. She is going to do amazing things and live a great, positive life. I’m so grateful for her. We are so, so lucky to be this wonderful little ladies parents. Our family is so very blessed to have our Flora girl. Know who else is blessed? FLORA!