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Name: Bridgett | Children: Phoebe (5), Ramona (1)
photo credit: Stephanie Woodward Photography
Did you enjoy your pregnancy?: Both pregnancies were were really pretty great. Of course, I felt sick sometimes and uncomfortable near the end, but overall I don’t really have too many complaints because I was pretty healthy and had healthy babies.
How was your delivery experience?: My first labor/delivery experience was more difficult. I learned a lot about my body during my experience and prepared differently during my second pregnancy. I have long labors. I didn’t really know that when I started having regular contractions pretty close together with my first child and we headed straight to the hospital where they took me in, hooked me up to the IVs, and I got my epidural and I waited. And waited. Dilation was slow and I was super uncomfortable and hungry since it was hospital policy that laboring women don’t have food. (I was able to eat flavored ice chips but those just gave me heartburn.) Anyway, I was at the hospital for 18 hours before Miss Phoebe was born. Starving, uncomfortable, (with heartburn) and very impatient. Labor wasn’t great, but she was beautiful. The first thing the nurses commented on were her long eyelashes. She still has super long eyelashes and big beautiful brown eyes.
When I was pregnant with Ramona, I hoped to not be in the hospital that long, so I did a lot of reading on natural childbirth and learned a ton. I learned that there is a broad range of what is considered natural during the labor process. Some women have really short, intense labors. Other women labor for a really long amount of time. I fall in the latter camp. At first I was upset about it, but having long labors does have its benefits. Usually labor isn’t as intense or painful as those with really short labors and that is something I am happy about. When I did all that reading, I also learned about how to better manage my pain on my own, so I felt comfortable staying in my own home longer. I took walks around the neighborhood throughout day and marched up and down 3 flights of stairs. I also enjoyed a delicious meal at the Red Iguana (which I later threw up while I was pushing in hospital. But I threw up when I was pushing my first baby out although I hadn’t eaten ALL DAY so I’d say it was worth it to have the energy to push out my 8 lb. 6 oz. baby. I’ll stop my rant there.) After eating that yummy dinner with my husband, Rory, we walked around City Creek until it closed then went home and I took a nice warm bath while I watched Gilmore Girls. That’s when labor started to get really intense. I knew that I hit the “transition” phase of labor when I couldn’t concentrate on the show anymore (and really I wanted to concentrate on it because it was the episode when Jess tells Rory that he loves her. <3) Anywho, at that point I knew we should get to the hospital. After getting to the hospital, I still had an epidural and Miss Ramona was born maybe 2.5 hours later. They were able to put her right on my chest after she was born which was different from Phoebe (since they had to hurry Phoebe away and suction out her mouth and nose and do the CPAP thing –not fun). With Ramona I was able to really enjoy her and hold her right when she was born and all the crazy that was going on in the room seemed to fade away. It was the craziest thing!
What’s your biggest struggle when it comes to being a mom?: Self doubt and patience.
What’s your biggest strength when it comes to being a mom?: Oh, that is tough. I’d say I’m pretty decent at getting my kids excited to learn about new things. My parents were always good at encouraging us kids to learn new skills and I always appreciated that and have been striving to replicate that for my kids. Both my kids love books and (usually) like to try new foods, I’d be lying if I said it didn’t make me just a little bit proud.
What is your parenting style?: Before I became a mother I read two different books about the newborn stage of parenthood. I read On becoming Babywise and The Happiest Baby on the Block. They are both from very different schools of thought and I learned a lot from both. The biggest thing I learned though, was that there are a lot of good principles found in different places. So you kind of have to learn all you can, then do what appeals most and makes sense for you and you family. That is what I try to do. If I’m having issues with something like potty training (which has been the hardest part of parenthood for me, so far) I talk to a bunch of other moms, read all I can online, then talk to my husband about it. We then decide what we should do together.
What is your favorite part of the day with your child/children?: I love when bedtime goes well (doesn’t always happen) and we have time to read books together. And I love when they snuggle with me -they aren’t usually snugglers.
Who is an inspiration to you when it comes to motherhood?: My mom. Hands down. I look up to her because she has the most patience of anyone you’ll ever meet. She and my dad have also been wonderfully supportive of all my dreams and endeavors and did their very best to offer me the tools I needed. When I was in second grade and wanted to be an artist, they gave me a nice artist sketch book and my very skilled father spent time drawing with me. When I wanted to learn to play guitar and sing, they gave me a guitar and paid for guitar and voice lessons. When I was at BYU and very down-in-the-dumps they gave me a laptop to help me with my schooling. When my mind changed a million times about what I wanted to do, they did everything they could to encourage me. They are so amazing. I hope to be more like them someday.
Advice for fellow mothers who need a little boost?: 1- Get rid of the mom guilt. I know it is one of the hardest things, but you have to take care of yourself as well. (For me that means; going on dates with Rory, reading, exercising, socializing with other moms, and having hobbies. I love creating things and doing photography. I also love my calling right now as Personal Progress leader in my ward. I feel like all of these things help me to de-stress so I can be a better mom.)
2- It’s okay if you don’t get everything crossed off of your TO DO list.
3- Don’t compare yourself to what you see on Pinterest or other social media -know that they are sharing the best of the best, usually I start to compare my worst to those things and that’s just not a fair comparison.
4- Also, sometimes when my girls are not fighting and things are good (and if I remember to do this) I try to just take a deep breath and take it all in so I can store that moment in my memory for when things aren’t so great. It might just be for a few seconds but I feel like when I do that, I find that those moments come more often.
Where is your favorite place to shop for yourself?: Hmm… I could get lost in Target for a while. Is that too cliche? Favorite place to shop for your child/children?: For clothes, I get most of their shopping done at Old Navy. (I just got my girls adorable Jelly shoes for spring.)
What’s one product for yourself you can’t live without?: Lotion. I have eczema and super dry skin so I NEED my lotion. Favorite product for your child/children?: This
How has being a mom changed your life?: In every way you can possibly imagine… One of my friends said that parenthood is a great exercise in self examination and I agree. I’ve learned a ton about myself and all my flaws. I have learned a lot about life and a lot (but probably not enough) about having Christ-like love. I feel like understand more of the importance of education -I really want my kids to enjoy learning.
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