“Being a mom has softened me, and made me more compassionate towards others.”
Name: Cassidie | Child’s Name: Porter, 2 years old.
Did you enjoy your pregnancy?: No I did not. I would talk to Porter inside of me and tell him I loved him, because I didn’t want him to think I didn’t want him, because I didn’t like being pregnant. but I hated being pregnant. I was sick and threw up every single day of pregnancy.
How was your delivery experience?: Not that great either. I had preeclampsia; so they gave me magnesium. They induced me, and my water broke, and went into labor fine. My oxygen started dropping so they put me on oxygen. They told me to start pushing so I pushed for two hours (falling asleep in between contractions). The nurse said she had never seen anyone fall asleep in between contractions before. Then they told me I had to have a c-section. So after two hours of pushing they took me to have a c-section. I couldn’t really hold Porter the first day, because of the magnesium that was still wearing off. It made me really tired, and my arms were too weak to hold Porter by myself.
Whats your biggest struggle when it comes to being a mother?: Working. I love my job, and I have a very flexible job, but I miss being with Porter all the time.
What is your parenting style?: I‘m not sure. I am still figuring it out. I want to be strict enough that Porter knows the rules, but I also want to discipline calmly. I want to talk to my child, and help him understand what he did wrong rather than yell at him. It is easier said then done. I never want him to be afraid to tell me if he made a mistake or did something wrong.
What is your favorite part of the day with your child?: First thing in the morning when he is waking up, and when I get home from work.
Who is an inspiration to you when it comes to motherhood?: My mom, mother-in-law, and friend Buffy Smith. They all have different parenting styles, and I want to pull from all three of their techniques.
Advice for fellow mothers who need a little boost?: I’m not sure I am a very good person to give advice. I think the most important thing is to know that every body has a different situation. Kids are all different, and we can’t compare ourselves to others. It is good to learn from others, but we need to decide for ourselves who we are as mothers, and what that means to us.
Where is your favorite place to shop for yourself?: Banana Republic
Favorite place to shop for your child?: Gap, Polo, or Nordstrom Rack.
What is one product for yourself you can’t live without?: Bare Minerals makeup. I’m pretty low maintenance. Most of the time I just throw a little foundation on and that’s it.
Favorite product for your child?: Porter’s Minky blanket. He loves his blankets.
How has being a mom changed your life?: Being a mom has softened me, and made me more compassionate towards others. Being a mom is hard work, and I see people differently now. I thought I wouldn’t be very motherly, because I grew up tom boyish. I thought I would be a rough and tough mom, but I am surprisingly quite sensitive.
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