“I love my kids, love being a mom and love my life. Without love, I just don’t think any of it is possible.”
Name: Ali | Children: Emma and Dutch
Did you enjoy your pregnancy?: I only enjoyed small moments with my first, because I was sick a lot. With my second, I felt much better and was able to enjoy it more.
How was your delivery experience? Overall both deliveries went great. I think that if you go into it with a plan and expect one thing to go wrong with your plan, you will have a much better experience. With both deliveries, one challenging thing presented itself, but because I planned on one thing to change, I was immediately open to the new paths. Hypnobirthing classes helped me know how to manage myself while my body was doing its thing.
What’s your biggest struggle when it comes to being a mom?: Balance. It is hard to get everything done that I need and want to get done. I try to remember to give my husband as much attention as before kids, while giving special one on one attention to the kids, all while getting work done.
What’s your biggest strength when it comes to being a mom?: Love. I love my kids, love being a mom and love my life. Without love, I just don’t think any of it is possible.
What is your parenting style? I try to teach and explain why the answer is sometimes “no”. I try to give them 4 positives (“Thank you for playing so nice together”) to
> 1 negative , (“that was a sad choice to hit, let’s go take a break in your room until you calm down”) Some days that is easier said than done with two toddlers.
What is your favorite part of the day with your child/children?: When I get to have one-on-one time snuggling or reading a book.
Who is an inspiration to you when it comes to motherhood?: My sister Laurel always keeps her cool with 4 rowdy boys. I try to mimic how she parents them.
Advice for fellow mothers who need a little boost?: My friend Sarah told me, “It’s totally ok to not get everything done. At the end of each day something has got to give.” My advice is prioritize and then feel confident about your decision. Don’t let guilt stand in your way. You can finish the dishes, spend extra time for story time or finish your project. Time is a gift. Do what you can, and it is OK to save the rest for tomorrow. Homes with kids should not be perfectly clean, you don’t have to be perfect to the worlds standards because that kind of perfect doesn’t exist. Be your own perfect and rely on God to help with the rest.
Where is your favorite place to shop for yourself?: Favorite place to shop for your child/children?: Savers for the win! If frequented, you can find amazing deals on lightly worn clothes for kids and adults. It’s like a treasure hunt.
What’s one product for yourself you can’t live without?: My planner from In The Leafy Tree Tops. Favorite product for your child/children? IKEA Chalkboard Easel. It’s super cheap and they always have an accessible way to be creative with little mess.
How has being a mom changed your life?: Being a mother is a mix of every emotion possible. I feel like coal under pressure to become a diamond. It makes me better in every way. Sometimes, I don’t feel that I am getting better, but as I look back at my imperfections I can see that my patience, spirituality, love and all things positive are growing in the right direction.
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