“3 contractions later and we had a slimy baby in our arms. I couldn’t stop crying I was so happy and relieved.”
Childs Name/Age: Raelyn Grace, 4 months
Did you enjoy your pregnancy?: I really regret not trying to enjoy my pregnancy more. My 4 previous pregnancies had all ended in miscarriages. I always told myself that when a pregnancy finally “stuck” I would be the happiest pregnant person ever. But my anxiety definitely got the better of me. I spent 9 months being more anxious than I’ve ever been. Looking back I miss that little belly and feeling her kick and ultrasound appointments. I had a fairly easy pregnancy with very few complications. It’s definitely better having her on the outside but I wish I would have tried harder to cherish that time.
How was your delivery experience?: I was induced right at 39 weeks. She had stopped growing, my placenta was showing signs of calcification, and there was low amniotic fluid. I went in the night before for cervical ripening. I’ve never been so excited or nervous in my life. My husband snoozed away on the couch while I stared at her heart monitor… all… night… long. The next morning they broke my water and started pitocin. Labor was a lot faster than we all expected. Before we knew it I was ready to push. My doctor didn’t even have time to change…my photographer almost didn’t make it…3 contractions later and we had a slimy baby in our arms. I couldn’t stop crying I was so happy and relieved.
What’s your biggest struggle when it comes to being a mom?: I consider myself a very “efficient” person. When we brought our baby home my mom stayed with me for a week. I remember telling my mom the “agenda” for the day which included 2 doctor appointments and grocery shopping on the way home so we could be as efficient with our time as possible. My mom laughed, advised me reschedule one of the appointments and we would go grocery shopping another day. Best advice I’ve ever gotten. I’m learning to cut myself some slack especially when I only get one and a half things done off my list.
What’s your biggest strength when it comes to being a mom?: I’ve felt my confidence grow as I’ve been able to meet her needs. I was so worried that I wouldn’t know what she needed or what was wrong with her. But as I stop and think and follow my gut I’ve been able to slowly begin to understand her and that’s a good feeling.
What is your parenting style?: I would like to say laid back but I’m probably more uptight/ helicopter. I’m so anal about safe sleeping and pretty anal about a schedule. I also check on her a million times. But then other things I don’t care about like if her binky drops on the ground or if my dog licks her- other people would flip a lid. I guess I’m pretty inconsistent and it drives my husband crazy ha ha who knows what I’ll decide to be anal about today! I blame the hormones and lack of sleep 😉
What is your favorite part of the day with your child/children?: I love when she wakes up from naps. I really miss her and I just want to play with her. Unless I’m napping while she is napping… then that’s a whole other story lol
Who is an inspiration to you when it comes to motherhood?: My mom and my sisters are all really great examples to me.
Advice for fellow mothers who need a little boost?: Cut yourself some slack!! Don’t get wound up about what you didn’t get done! Be realistic with your expectations with yourself. It’s really helped me to set one goal for the morning and one goal for the afternoon and as I accomplish those goals my confidence grows. It might be working out, drinking enough water, doing a load of laundry, or taking out the trash. No matter how small it is, it feels good to get it done!
Where is your favorite place to shop for yourself? Favorite place to shop for your child/children?: I hate leaving the house… AMAZON for everything ha ha
What’s one product for yourself you can’t live without? Netflix/Hulu saved me in the early days. Especially when I was sleep deprived. My baby won’t latch so I am only pumping and being able to watch my favorite shows while pumping by myself makes it less miserable. Favorite product for your child/children? Owlet!!! We are anxious crazies at our house! I couldn’t sleep without it!
How has being a mom changed your life?: I’ve dreamed about what being a mom would be like for a long time through all our struggles. I had painted this wonderful picture. I was scared I had unrealistic expectations but honestly it’s exactly how I imagined. I never knew I could be this tired and most days I feel like a failure but being a mom is the best! And definitely worth the wait!
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