“You know your kids the best. And you know yourself the best. Do what works for you and your family.”
Child/Children’s Names/ages: Wendy/4 months
Did you enjoy your pregnancy?: I feel really lucky to have had a pretty great pregnancy. I did have nausea during the first trimester, but I (thankfully) never actually threw up. Second trimester I felt great and was able to get back to eating regularly. Third trimester, besides being huge and feeling a bit awkward, I really feel like I avoided most of the later pregnancy symptoms (like swollen feet and not being able to sleep). I was able to exercise throughout my whole pregnancy (which was one of my goals), and I felt pretty healthy. My favorite part of pregnancy was definitely feeling my little baby move around inside me. It’s kind of the coolest thing ever and it never stopped amazing me.
How was your delivery experience?: I feel like there are two important points to my delivery experience. 1. Absolutely nothing went according to how I expected. And, 2. It was a totally and completely amazing experience. My labor was way longer than I expected it to be (my mom and sister had relatively short labors), I pushed for quite a long time, and I ended up having to have a C Section. See? Nothing how I envisioned it! BUT the day I was in labor flew by. I completely trusted the doctor and midwife who took care of me. And I ended up having a healthy baby girl, which was my only real goal going into the hospital anyway.
What’s your biggest struggle when it comes to being a mom?: Probably worry, which I think a lot of moms can relate to. If I let myself, I worry about everything! But I try really hard to redirect my thoughts when I start thinking about “what ifs.”
What’s your biggest strength when it comes to being a mom?: Ha! I was going to say patience and then I had a particularly frustrating experience where I felt like I had no patience whatsoever! So that won’t do…forgive me for getting a little bit churchy…but I guess one of my biggest strengths is that I’m not afraid to pray and ask Heavenly Father to give me a little help, whether I’m in need of insight, patience, peace, etc. I certainly couldn’t do the whole mothering thing if I felt like I was on my own.
What is your parenting style?: With only a three month old, I don’t feel like I’ve had much experience in the whole parenting department :). I do worry that I’ll have tendencies to helicopter (yikes!) but I think being aware of that will help me to squash my impulses. My husband (he’s an educator and has had practice) subscribes to the Love and Logic method of parenting, which is basically laying out natural consequences for your children to help them become aware of how they’re affected by their choices. I’ve done research and I’m totally on board for that, but it’s definitely something I’ll need to practice as it’s not my first response. I’m sure we’ll adapt and create our own nuances as we learn and grow.
What is your favorite part of the day with your child/children?: Probably right after she wakes up in the morning or after a nap. She’s super sweet and chatty right then and it’s a pleasure to just sit and enjoy her company. I also love when she gets to interact with my husband. She thinks he’s pretty hilarious.
Who is an inspiration to you when it comes to motherhood?: I have so many sweet mamas in my life I’m able to look up to! My mom, mother-in-law, sister and sisters-in-law are all such good examples to me. They’re at very different stages of mothering and they all have vastly different styles, but I definitely feel like I can learn from each of them.
Advice for fellow mothers who need a little boost?: I would say to give yourself more credit than you think! I get nervous when I hear other moms doing something a certain way. I think, “Oh my gosh, should I be doing that too? Is that the right way?” But the truth is that there is no right way. You know your kids the best. And you know yourself the best. Do what works for you and your family.
Where is your favorite place to shop for yourself? Favorite place to shop for your child/children?: Target for both of us, cliche as it is! Although, I always make it a point to check out the kiddo clearance section at any store I go to. Old Navy, Marshalls and Kohls often have good finds.
What’s one product for yourself you can’t live without? Favorite product for your child/children?: For me, chocolate! Can I say that? Ha! Truthfully, I’m pretty simple and I probably couldn’t live without Burt’s Bees Lip Balm. And let’s be real. I’ve tried many different flavors and tints but I always just come back to the classic Peppermint. And for my baby (okay, it’s for me too;) I could not live without our Ergobaby 360 Baby Carrier! It is the best!!! I use it every single day (sometimes multiple times a day). If anyone is looking at carriers I would 100% recommend it!
How has being a mom changed your life?: I feel like I can’t even do this question any justice. I think being a mom has given me so much more joy. It’s helped me to live more intentionally and definitely helps me to focus on all the things I have to be grateful for.
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